Anonymous asked: When straight men say they love lesbians but can't even stand gay men. Does that stem from misogyny or misandry. I ask this because I see a lot of people saying slash fangirls that love male on male but can't stand female on female or even male on female are misogynists
Misandry doesn’t exist. Full stop.
That’s a combination of homophobia (“ew gay men”) and misogyny (“women exist for straight men”).
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forms of transphobia you should watch out for in your speech and thought processes
- casual cissexism: associating genitalia/body parts with gender, statements like “god i’m such a lesbian i love vaginas” and “guys don’t understand periods at all” or anything that implies people with vaginas and breasts = female and people with penises = male
- nonbinary erasure: phrases like “opposite gender”, statements that imply male and female are the only genders
- intersex erasure: phrases like “opposite sex”, statements that imply there are only two sexes and that everyone is born with strictly a vagina or penis
- assuming gender based on appearance: if you don’t know someone’s gender, don’t assume they are female and don’t refer to them as “she” just because they appear dfab or femme. don’t use gendered terms to refer to someone whose gender you do not know.
I just discovered the term “spectrumslide” as an alternative to the term “genderbend” and I REALLY think people should start using it and loving it as much as I do. It takes into account both the gender and sex spectrums, so not only is it not transphobic, it also is a lot more interesting and fun to experiment with.